So you are considering living together? Sharing a home? Picking out furniture? This can be fun, and bring a new level of intimacy to your relationship.
I suggest clients consider four important questions prior to cohabitation.
1. Do either of you have children?
If you or your partner have children, think very carefully before moving in together. You don’t want to be responsible for children experiencing increased levels of grief and loss if the relationship doesn’t work out. I often have clients who seek advice from me about how to talk to their kids about why their boyfriend doesn’t live here anymore. There is also a question of values that you are teaching your children. It is important to consider what values you want your child to hold and live accordingly.
2. Are you or your partner able to maintain your individual lifestyle if the other moved out? [Read more…]