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Moving in Together?

Young couple holding boxes. Moving to a new apartment or house.So you are considering living together? Sharing a home? Picking out furniture? This can be fun, and bring a new level of intimacy to your relationship.

I suggest clients consider four important questions prior to cohabitation.

1. Do either of you have children?

If you or your partner have children, think very carefully before moving in together. You don’t want to be responsible for children experiencing increased levels of grief and loss if the relationship doesn’t work out. I often have clients who seek advice from me about how to talk to their kids about why their boyfriend doesn’t live here anymore. There is also a question of values that you are teaching your children. It is important to consider what values you want your child to hold and live accordingly.

2. Are you or your partner able to maintain your individual lifestyle if the other moved out?  [Read more…]

Test yourself with this quiz: Is my relationship healthy?

Is my relationship healthy? Take this relationship quiz to find out. We can help your relationship with couples counseling in Geneva, IL.Are you asking yourself, “Is my relationship healthy”? Take this quiz to get a better feel for the health of your relationship. If you receive a low score on this quiz, it is worth considering getting help.

Is my relationship healthy?

Take this quiz to see if your relationship is healthy. If you receive a low score on this quiz, it is worth considering getting help.

Dating Tips for Women: Expert Interview with How To Win A Man’s Heart

Interview with Teresa Petersen Mendoza

Originally Published on the  How to Win A Man’s Heart Website

1. Can too much honesty negatively affect a relationship especially when you have just started seeing the other person? How much of the past and even the present should you reveal to the man you are dating? Should you share details like cheating in the previousCouple having picnic on beach relationship, the fact you are currently seeing a therapist or you are a recovering alcoholic etc?

Some of our subscribers have been too honest and in the process lost out on many men because it freaked them out. Can you share your thoughts on how women can balance the fine line between honesty and giving themselves the chance to date men and pursue a long term committed relationship?

So many women rush into the long-term committed stage of the relationship without learning about the men they are dating. It’s like trying to skip to the middle of a new book. You lose context. The beginning of a relationship is about getting to know the person you are with. Are they trustworthy? Will they still be around in a few months? Chemistry is great – fantastic – what about your personal values, life goals and desire for family? Just the same as character development in a story, i you skip to the middle of the book, you don’t really know who the person is. [Read more…]

Why can’t I get into a relationship?

Why can't I get into a relationship? Try coaching for singles with Teresa in Geneva, IL

Have your friends started pairing off, leaving you the last man standing? Are you frustrated by your ability to succeed at work but not at romance? You may have been happily single before, but now that you can’t get into a relationship when you want to, you might find yourself feeling isolated, lonely, or frustrated. You may have gone on many dates, only to feel that you are dating “the same person over and over again, they just look a little different.”

If you are asking yourself, “Why can’t I get into a relationship?”, Teresa Petersen Mendoza’s coaching for singles can help you. [Read more…]

Dating help

Teresa the dating coach gives relationship coaching in Geneva, IL

These days dating can feel like a full-time job. Whether you are a dating veteran, new to the dating world or re-starting your dating life after being out of the pool, let me help you fine tune your skills.

Why use a therapist as a dating coach?

  • Clarify what you want out of the dating process
  • Learn to listen to your gut [Read more…]

Spring Clean Your Relationships

Provided by Teresa in January 2014. Teresa assures that this image came from Microsoft Clip Art. This image was used in the old blog
With all of the Snow White themed movies coming out recently, I am reminded of the original Disney version. Snow White seemed so happy to sing and sweep in that little cottage. These days, cleaning is less of a glorious task and more of a necessity, concentrated mostly in the spring/summer.
 
As the weather is warming, the kids are fleeing from school and you’re steadily overwhelmed by thoughts of vacation and juggling work-life needs, don’t forget the following tips to clean out your
relationships… [Read more…]

What is “Having It All?”

Provided by Teresa in January 2014. Teresa assures that this image came from Microsoft Clip Art. This image was used in the old blog

 Many of you have heard about the July/August 2012 article in The Atlantic entitled, “Women Still Can’t Have It All.” Anne-Marie Slaughter has a great point. Women can’t have the perfect home, perfect kids, be the perfect mother and have the perfect career. However, neither can men. Idealism aside, all of that is just plain hard work. It is possible to greatly enjoy your career, work hard to make things happen in your life and have a family. The key is to understand which is most important at any given moment. [Read more…]