Competing sex drives? Completely normal!
Don’t worry, you aren’t crazy or broken. If you want sex more often or less often than your partner, it may just be a matter of adaption. Many things can influence your drive… Hormones, Stress, Bloat, etc.
Research has shown that women even prefer different kinds of men during different times of the month. Did you know that?
Research was done on female cycles and male/female attraction, women who are ovulating tend to flirt more with masculine men and crave sex more. FYI… women on a hormonal birth control don’t exhibit these changes.
If you have a different sex drive than your partner, don’t fear. The relationship isn’t doomed. Just keep some things in mind…
- Communicate if you want more. Your partner may be holding back because things are new!
- Focus on what works. If a position or a toy is tried and true for you, let him know.
- He can’t read your mind. Talk about sex. If he’s the right guy, he will want to know!
- Things change. Just because everything was voom, voom in the beginning, doesn’t mean it lasts… not without creativity and connection.
- Sometimes it is just about connecting. Men tend to feel more hurt when “rejected” because they are using sex to feel connected, not just for the act.
Most importantly, sex and love are different. Don’t mistake sex and lust for love. If you feel conflicted, help is available. Reach out to a dating or relationship therapist for support. This is complicated. You aren’t alone.
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